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Regret Can Make You Better! - Daniel H. Pink

What are your regrets?

We all have them.

It has been said that regrets are a consequence of life.

Regret is and can be very negative. As part of our sin nature we all do things we regret.

God in His mercy has not left us to our devices.

Regret is not just a mistake to correct but our learning and understanding by looking back. As we develop wisdom we know what actions or thinking can produce regret.

But what if we do nothing with that regret but brood over it, let it depress us?

If Regret Leads to Repentance

10 For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. 2 Corinthians 7:10

If we honestly humble ourselves before our Lord and repent, cnage our thinking and behavior real cahnge can occur in our lives.

Worldly regret is when we regret our actions/thinking but in the end we do nothing about it.

Salvation without regret reflects our daily relationship with God the Father, Christ Jesus and the Person of the Holy Spirit. Our sins are forgiven and we move on, the past is gone, the future lies ahead.

Whereas worldly regret “produces death”. You continue to repeat the same patterns over and over again, which do not lead to change.

Jesus will forgive your regrets, each and every one of them. On the cross, he paid for your all your regrets. True Holiness is possible!

In his book, Pink identifies these four core types of regret:

  • Foundation regrets involves an irresponsible choice that changed the course of your life. This includes not saving enough money for retirement, not taking care of your health by eating well and exercising, or not putting in proper effort at school or work.

  • Boldness regrets come from being too cautious, and not taking certain risks. This includes staying in a “safe” job instead of going for a career changes more suited to you, or not asking out someone you liked on a date.

  • Moral regrets are when you don’t live up to your own values. You cheated, bullied, lost your temper, or didn’t stand up for something.

  • Connection regrets deal with lost relationships with family members, friends or colleagues. Too often, this happens due to neglect and passivity.

4 Kinds of Regret – and What They Teach You about Yourself | Daniel H. Pink | TED

Video from TED

Regret Can Make You Better!

"Regret is one of our most powerful emotions -- and also one of the most misunderstood. Over the past two years, author Daniel H. Pink has collected a trove of more than 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries in an effort to better understand this mysterious emotion. He shares the key patterns that emerged (it all boils down to the same four core regrets, he says) and explains how to transform your own regrets in order to create the life you've always wanted to live. (This talk and conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of an exclusive TED Membership event. Visit to become a TED Member.)" from video introduction

The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel H. Pink (link)


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