Updated: Oct 1, 2022
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another
as God in Christ forgave you.
John Piper states in his book This Momentary Marriage, “Marriage is meant by God to put that gospel reality on display in the world. That is why we are married. That is why all married people are married.”
Have you considered your marriage, your relationship with your spouse? Do you pray daily for each other?
Life is short and the time you are gifted to be with your spouse may be even shorter.
Our secular age has led us astray in many things including marriage.
Marriage is a precious gift and blessing. We all desire to experience the great joy this experience should bring, yet most people are not ready or spiritually equipped, once they find marriage, to embrace the full extent of what marriage is. The marital bliss we see on TV and at the movies is a cruel fantasy as we believe that marriage is about our self-gratification and not self-sacrifice.
The Apostle Paul in his letter to the Ephesians explains that instead of a selfish union, marriage at its core is designed to be a selfless union (Ephesians 5:22–27). Death to self, not personal gratification, is at the core of marriage. We do not hear that much no doubt because it is so difficult to practice. What we see on display in society and through entertainment, what our flesh craves through our sin nature, is a marriage that simply fulfills our own longings, passions, and overlooks our own inadequacies.
Many of us are (or have been) desperate for the promise of romance. Many people, many Christians let their selfish desires lead the pursuit of marriage, instead of God and his Holy Word. We go in search of the perfect husband or wife for us (the One), someone to meet our needs and our fantasies.
Like the man in Proverbs 18:1–2,
In this pursuit we isolate ourselves from the wisdom and counsel of others, and discount good judgment. We follow our sinful desires in search of love.
By his life and death, Jesus displays the center of marriage as self-sacrifice.
No matter what the day brings regardless of the long list that might include, cleaning the restroom or vacuuming the floor, or going to the store , find ways to serve your spouse in the routine, or spontaneous, the mundane or creative, the immediate and the long-term.
Make it a daily routine that you will sacrifice for your spouse, (present or future), pouring yourself out, forsaking your desires and needs for the sake of another, all for the glory of Christ.